I talk a lot about what separates good leaders from great leaders. We know it when we see it. Good leaders get the job done, but great leaders inspire us to be the best version of ourselves. Their innovation, grounded spirit, and self-assuredness are contagious.
So, what is it that makes these people so magnetic? So alluring? So unique?
I think there are many answers to that question, and I don’t profess to know them all. But, what I do know, is that these great leaders are, at their core, artists. Their art is their very presence, and their ability to share themselves and their message with the world.
This is relevant for anyone who wants to spread their message effectively.
I was at a training a few months ago with a man who has been called many things– a master facilitator, a coach, a mentor, and even a guru. He deals in systems, processes, and structures, as much as with hearts, music, and energy. All in all, he is an inspiring leader to be in the presence of. I wish I could absorb even half of his wisdom.
These qualities that he exhibits have come from a lifetime of practice in different methodologies, which is to say, he has honed his craft. People don’t usually rise to greatness on accident.
Working as an artist is about the process of creating, not just the finished piece. It takes commitment, discipline, time, patience, and deep passion for what you do, whether or not anyone else happens to be paying attention. I come from a long line of artists who painted because their souls had to, not because fame or attention were even remote possibilities.
Similarly, finding your footing as an activist and social justice leader takes time, patience, and a commitment to the journey. Often, our fights are long and enduring, striving for changes in policy, culture, and the hearts and minds of the public.
The message to work for change may come from your soul, but the work actually happens day in and day out, whether or not it feels as if progress is being made.
Looking at your work as a masterpiece constantly in the process of being created, and reconnecting to that inner fire, might help to alleviate some of the burnout associated with the long haul.
So, with your artist hat on (beret or otherwise…), I pose some questions:
When you do social change work professionally, it tends to get personal, fast. We all come to this work with stories from our past and communities, the reasons we feel called to fight for justice.
Many of those experiences are felt very deeply, quickly creating bonds between us and the people we work with every day. I have so many beautiful and enduring friendships that have been born out of being co-workers first.
It’s also true, that this closeness can breed a difficult dynamic where boundaries are crossed, and staffers are left feeling exposed and raw without much space or separation between work-life and personal life.
So, let’s talk about boundaries.
Boundaries are difficult to set, and even harder to maintain. They require inner knowing, commitment, and a bit of tough love towards others. But, when structured well, boundaries can actually make us feel more secure, lighter, and free us up from other peoples’ stuff.
I used to have a boss that disguised her nosey nature as “getting to know you” leadership. It took me months of feeling uncomfortable, and slightly ashamed, after our conversations to realize that her supposed leadership style was, in fact, just straight up gossipy. As an introvert, I’m prone to this feeling of overexposure. But, for anyone, crossed boundaries are a sign that we need to raise our defense shields.
I find that boundaries get especially murky when issues of power and privilege are at play. If you’re already marginalized at work, it’s a much bigger challenge to stand up for your own needs.
In need of some boundary setting with your co-workers? Try out these tips.
As we head into winter, traditionally a period of stable rest, I find my life looking a little different than usual.
There are a few things right now that are a bit unsettled—balls that have been tossed in the air but have yet to land. There are multiple moving pieces, each affecting the next, most of which are out of my control.
This state of being is not, exactly, my comfort zone.
We humans love to try to map and chart the future.
But, it’s been the moments when I’ve allowed myself to free-fall and confronted my fears, when transformation has truly taken hold.
So, it is in these times of change that I’m once again presented with an opportunity to sit in the unknown, and find the expansiveness and freedom that comes along with it.
It’s a learning curve for me, but I will share what I’ve gathered so far, and am continuously trying to put into practice:
Guest Post by Gregory A. Cendana
Cendana is the first openly gay and youngest-ever Executive Director of the Asian Pacific American Labor Alliance (APALA) of the AFL-CIO, and Institute for Asian Pacific American Leadership & Advancement.
I’m known by many for having a Can’t Stop! Won’t Stop! kind of lifestyle.
And it’s true.
I’ve found a way to balance all the important things in my life: family, friends, work, dance, local DC politics and the list goes on.
Believe it or not, there is no secret potion or pill to my seemingly endless energy. It lies in the practices that I’ve developed for personal sustainability and the amount of self-love I have and continue to prioritize.
People, especially students and young professionals, are sometimes made to believe the only way you’ll be successful is if you work non-stop, and that pushing one self toward burnout is part of a process of “paying your dues” before you can ascend into leadership.
This was definitely how I felt, especially when I moved to Washington, D.C. more than 5 years ago. I found myself waking up early, staying up late, and constantly on the grind. During meals—if I even ate them—and when I was with family or friends, I’d be on my phone answering emails or continually adding to my never-ending list of things to do. There was always someone to respond to or something urgent that needed to be addressed (or it seemed that way, anyway).
I’ve been told before that organizing, fighting for social change and movement-building should be treated like a marathon, not a sprint. My life experiences have reminded me over and over that this is true.
Personal sustainability is the best thing you can do for yourself and our collective quest for social justice. I believe success should not be calculated by how long or much you work but rather by how effective you are in the goals you set for yourself.
You may be asking, “how did you do it Gregory?”
Here are some of the things I did that helped me find balance in my life:
You’re a social change professional or student in your 20s or 30s. You’re pretty burnt out, financially strapped, debating what your next steps should be.
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The problems in the world are only getting bigger, and you want to make local and global impact.
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